As we cannot control the actions of another, the best strategy we can use is enhancing the self, and acquiring the proper knowledge to establish our personal shield against all negativity we may have contact with in the present moment. The more we try to focus on the external, the less effective our defences against suffering are, as suffering is manifested from the inside out. Do not suffer by others' actions you may not agree with. You just own yourself. So, start paying attention to you and your reactions. You cannot change others' behaviour but you can change your behaviour. If your change is positive you may inspire others to change their behaviours too.


The idea of enhancing the self is concentrated on what we have total control of: our own mind. If someone tries to get on our toes it is our duty to observe the situation, analyse the scene, and understand we may need new types of mind training, in order to overcome negative emotions rising in a given moment. We then get conscious we need to acquire more knowledge to rule our mind properly, being aware it is reasonable to seek the understanding about the motivation of that someone trying to get on our toes. In some sense, such motivation is related to getting the self out of mind in a conscious or unconscious way.


Some questions we may ask the self are:


  • Is that person afraid of my personal capabilities, being jealous about what I can do with the knowledge I have acquired until the present moment? 


  • Is that person trying to find out what are my reactions in response to the stimuli he/she provided on the experienced scene? 


  • Is that person experiencing a huge period of suffering, and therefore seeking such obnoxious behaviour to feel more comfortable about that? 


  • Am I comfortable about defending the self, considering the rate of the obnoxious scenes experienced?


  • Could I clearly identify what types of obnoxious behaviour I think are more challenging to deal with?


  • Could I clearly identify the knowledge I need to acquire in order to answer the previous questions properly?



The moment we realise enhancing the self is the only way to overcome any negativity we have contact with, it is the moment we understand the more we face it consciously, the more we acquire knowledge to deal with it properly.


Namaste 💓💓💓💓💓💓💓



Written by Jeferson Souza (thejefecomp).


Available also in a signed pdf version: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1npbjly7MKKbFvRmICZYEdSq15_yWcvqc/view?usp=sharing


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